Full circle

A good night's sleep, a damp cloudy morning, pancakes for breakfast. The meds didn't have such a strong soporific impact on me today, Don't know why. I went shopping for cooking apples and cauliflower before lunch. A memory from student days surfaced and surprised me, learning to make a sauce for a cauliflower cheese dish under Clare's supervision on the little stove she shared with others in Manor Hall Clifton, sixty years ago. Some elements of basic cooking I learned at home and in the Boy Scouts. Others I learned as a student when I got together with Clare. 

When I returned from the greengrocer's, I found Clare was making a cheese flan for lunch. While I was waiting to have my gall bladder removed I dare not eat eggs or cheese on their own or in any combination. Eighteen months later, I can eat cheese and even cheese flan without distressing my digestion. I'm OK with eggs in cake and pancakes, but have yet to try boiled or scrambled eggs and omelettes. I'm proceeding with caution, enjoying familiar food tastes anew, as long as I don't overdo it.

I slept for half an hour after lunch, then went out for a walk. Today is the fifty-sixth anniversary of my ordination to the priesthood by Archbishop Glyn Simon in Llandaff Cathedral, so I made a pilgrimage there, visited the cemetery and prayed where he and two of his successors are buried. On my way I met Fr Sion and his wife and daughter taking their dog for a walk, and told them where I was headed.

I have so much to give thanks for over those years as an 'Ambassador for Christ' at home and abroad, as an urban missioner in multi-cultural inner city communities in Birmingham Bristol and Cardiff, as a pastor in expatriate congregations in Switzerland, France and Spain, as an itinerant adult educator representing USPG all over Wales. Such a variety of experiences and opportunities in my working life and as a voluntary priest in retirement. And now in my latter years, I'm on the receiving end, back where I started, a member of the laity, praying in the pew, waiting on God for whatever comes next.

After supper, we watched another episode of Kabul, which seems agonisingly slow in its portrayal of panic chaos and menace, as Afghans and expats attempt to flee the country as the Taliban take control of the country. Then, I watched an episode and a half of 'Beck' until it was time for bed.

Ulster visits recalled

It seems like I'm settling into a more consistent pattern of seven and a half to eight hours of sleep a night. It doesn't stop the meds from causing light headedness, drowsiness and slowing my thinking.  For the most part my head is clear enough to enable me to cope with the ill effects, but it frustrates efforts to live at my natural relaxed pace. 

I received a message from my old friend Frank in Puerto Rico responding to a photo I found of Barbara his first wife, taken on our wedding day in 1966. He reminisced about a seaside family holiday they shared with us when our children were young. Barbara was living with a brain tumour which reached crisis point when we were together. She had to be air lifted to London's Guy's Hospital for treatment. We looked after their son Sasha who continued playing on the beach with our girls while Frank was away. Later I assisted at Barbara's funeral. She was Roman Catholic and it was a ground breaking privilege to be invited to take part at that time, soon after Vatican II.

I spent time before lunch transcribing a couple of pages of my Northern Ireland travel diary, in particular a section describing my ascent of Slieve Donard. I didn't have a camera at that time so there are no photos to remind me of the beauty I sought to express in my account. Memories of staying in Northern Ireland are rather vague fifty years on. I did two summer locum stints in Newcastle. Frank, Barbara and Sasha were with us on one occasion, but which one I can't work out. The travel diary is from 1974 so probably it was in 1973, as the 1974 text ends speculating about a return from chaplaincy to parish ministry.

Clare cooked butternut squash and broccoli to go with fish for a potato free lunch. I went Jason's greengrocers after eating to buy some blueberries, then walked in Llandaff Fields. After supper, another episode of 'Kabul', then Ashley rang for a chat, followed by Rachel as she drove to buy an item of kitchen furniture. The signal was so poor and intermittent, it sometimes stretched a gap between syllables in a word. Bizarre transmission latency. 

I stated watching an episode of Swedish crimmie 'Beck', a new season, but it was longer than I expected and stopped half way, as I didn't want to go to bed late.

Stiff fingers

Despite going to bed late I slept well, over eight hours, with the bedroom window open. It gave me a fairly clear headed start to the day, but by mid morning medication side effects closed in on me like bad weather, slowing me down, affecting my spatial awareness, making me feel nervous when on my feet.

In the day's news, Iranian backed Houthi forces have made significant advances, taking control of the Yemeni coastline and the Bab al Mandeb gateway to the Red Sea. The pipeline which made it possible to export Saudi oil using this route is out of action after a missile strike. With traffic through the Straight of Hormuz restricted and vulnerable to attack, the price of oil has risen further with widespread economic impacts especially on fuel prices.

Trump claims optimistically that Iran is open to a peace deal. It's impossible to believe anything he says. He's trying to cheer up voters ahead of the US mid-term elections at a time when his popularity is at an all time low. The US Congress has voted for the third time to halt progress in the war without its approval, with some Republicans voting with Democrats. The war has cost America $38 billion so far and depleted its military arsenal. Unfortunately Trump can veto any war time decision Congress makes, but the longer the conflict continues and inflation rises, the less likely Trump will be re-elected when the time comes.

I made an effort to play my Tatay guitar today. Remembering chords and melodies wasn't a concern but my left hand and fingers are so stiff that it's much harder to stretch them and press down on the finger board to make clean chord shapes and change them in the correct sequence when playing a piece of music I recall. Serves me right for failing to play for so long, not to mention cutting my fingernails. The Tatay is over sixty years old and has a beautiful mature resonant sound. It holds memories of music-making stretching back over my entire adult life. What a treasure!

We had cold pre-cooked sausages and veg for lunch, then went into town together to find a replacement for the broken metal foil in my electric razor. I remember seeing them on sale a few years ago. Neither Boots nor John Lewis had them in stock. Now it seems they are only available on-line. We had a cup of tea in John Lewis' top floor restaurant, and then returned home.

After supper we watched another episode of 'Kabul'. Then I watched the finale of 'Vigil' - a happy ending of sorts, but I'm not quite sure how it was reached as yet another layer of criminal conspiracy was exposed on top of the spy stories embedded in previous episodes - never mind, bed time already.

Catch up with former colleagues

I slept well again last night, but it took a long time to wake up properly. I didn't feel breathless, but rather as if I'd been sleeping in a room with no fresh air circulating. Well, I suppose that may be true. I don't keep a window open all night as the weather can change. When the temperature drops, I wake up feeling the cold, then it takes me ages to return to sleep.

I went to the Eucharist at St Catherine's after breakfast. Fr Sion is in Sweden on a diocesan twinning visit this week, so Canon Jenny Wigley took the service. We were colleagues in the city centre team ministry in the years for a while before my retirement. She moved on to Radyr Parish and I helped her out by taking services there occasionally. It must be ten years or more since our paths last crossed. She's a white haired granny now, but possesses the same exuberant spirit as she did twenty five years ago.

On the way back home I met Paula who lives in a nearby street. She contributes regularly to the Parish Daily Prayer WhatsApp thread, and I worked with her at the start of publishing Ministry Area information on Microsoft Sway. I haven't seen her since then, eighteen months ago. We chatted about our ailments and coming to terms with the vulnerabilities of old age. It's what people in our age bracket do, after all.

I had an acupuncture appointment booked for one o'clock, which thanks to Clare involved a hastily cooked lunch and a brisk walk to get to Parkwood clinic on time. When I arrived there I had no response from ringing the reception door bell. I phoned and got Peter's answering machine, so left him a text message. He called back an hour later apologising for having given me in haste an incorrect appointment time when changing the appointment time a few days earlier. We've re-booked for next week, the day after my GP appointment about a medication review, which could be useful, as I've discussed medication with him previously. 

After supper, I watched a couple of episodes of 'Vigil', combining a murder and a spy thriller with two female British detectives caught up with British, Chinese, Russian secret services and the CIA competing for control over the discovery of strategic energy assets in the Arctic Circle. It's such a complex story of lies, deceit and political intrigue it's hard to follow. The protagonists sometimes look puzzled too as they try to figure out what's happening, who's doing what to whom. Set on the island of Svalbard in the Barents Sea, the landscape is gaunt and treeless, covered with ice and snow even in summer. Aerial photography using a fashionable drone camera is impressive, showing viewers a place that few are ever likely to visit. It was engaging enough to watch that I stayed up later than I intended.

Autumnal

Another good night's sleep. That's three days in a row that I've slept for more than eight hours. It certainly makes a difference when it comes to coping with the ill effects of medication. Clare went off by taxi to her study group in Penarth, leaving me to re-hang the portrait of young Auntie Betty above the dining room table after Clare had a change of mind, tried it elsewhere, then decided it was OK where it was in the first place. It's not so easy a job, reinstating the necessary picture hooks.

I went out to buy wound dressing from Boots, and chicken legs to roast from Tesco's and cooked lunch when she returned -  veg and sausages, vegetarian for Clare, pork for me. I slept for twenty minutes in my arm chair, then went for a walk in Llandaff Fields after a cup of tea. The pale green Maple tree near the Western Avenue exit has turned yellow now. Chestnuts litter the grass. Most of the other trees remain olive green with a scattering of leaves sun scorched brown. One patch of grass near a tree stump has scores of round white mushrooms that resemble those appearing in packages on supermarket shelves. Autumn is nearly here.

After supper we watched another episode of Kabul and then one of Vigil, both on iPlayer. I found the dialogue isn't clear when watching on telly, so I switched to watching on Chromebook and using headphones which was quite an improvement.  Then late to bed.

Nature dictates the agenda

I woke up after a good night's sleep to sunshine and wind driven clouds on the move. It's Amanda's sixty second birthday today, so I sang her a greeting on WhatsApp. I also posted a thank you on the Daily Prayer thread in appreciation of the prayers and support I've received from church members in the year since the stroke. 

I've recovered quite well in many respects, but the preventative medication I have to take robs me of quality of life, and leaves me feeling vulnerable. The medics are slow responding to my concern about this. I didn't do much this morning apart from catching up on the news. I cooked couscous to go with ratatouille and fillets of trout for lunch. 

Afterwards we went grocery shopping together at the Co-op, towing a shopping trolley destabilised by uneven pavements, threatening to overturn, despite the pavements being resurfaced last year. Small patches of grass and weeds have forced their way through to the surface, bright green in colour in contrast to the black surface of the tarmac. It reminds me of the thistle that forced its way up through a crack in the barren concrete back yard of St Agnes Vicarage thirty years ago, a sign of the renewing power of nature, despite what we do to degrade and destroy God's creation.

It was tea time before I remembered to go and and collect my prescription meds from the Pharmacy, well before closing time on this occasion. It's not that I completely forget things I need to do, but the drugs slow down and can interrupt the recall process. I'm better at remembering things as the effect wears off in the afternoon. 

After supper I watched the first episode of a new series of 'Vigil' in BBC iPlayer - an international crime thriller about British police investigation into a murder and a disappearance at a scientific research centre of the Arctic circle. Norwegian, Russian and Chinese strategic interests contend with each other at a time when climate change has made maritime passage through polar regions possible all year round and sea bed prospecting for rare earth metals becomes economically feasible. An interesting take on a rapidly changing environment at the top of the world.

Stroke anniversary reflection

Overcast and drizzly today. I had a good night's sleep and stayed clear headed, even after taking the meds. The newly consecrated Bishop of Bangor, Manon Ceidwen James led 'Sunday Worship' on the radio, reflecting on vocation and pilgrimage.

Clare stayed with Kath while I went to the Parish Eucharist. It's twelve months tomorrow since the stroke ambushed me at the service on Holy Cross Day. Fellow worshippers came to my aid when I stumbled at Communion and became disoriented, more aware of what was happening than I was. The first symptom wasn’t a trapped nerve in my neck as I thought. I had trouble recognising where I was outside my own house. The morning after, I was grateful to Fr Rhys for driving me to UHW A&E and checking me in. There and then began a precarious journey of recovery including an adverse reaction to medication precipitating a heavy nose bleed at home a few days later. I was grateful to Nigel who drove me to A&E for a second stay involving surgery to repair a damaged vein in my nostril. Sixteen days after my first admission I was released to continue recovery at home.

I was much blessed by sacramental visits from parish clergy through this critical period. It brought home to me the mysterious reality of being sustained by the prayers of the church. The consultant who examined me when I was first admitted declared eight months later I was in good health making a good recovery . I’m grateful I didn’t lose strength and balance making it possible to continue walking ten thousand steps a day. Visual impairment stopped me from driving. It’s a relief to be spared the stressful necessity of driving and maintaining a car. We rely on public transport and occasional taxis instead.

The world I inhabit is smaller now, learning to live with limitations unforeseen. Life as a pedestrian in the slow lane allows me time to look and listen, to appreciate and give thanks for the beauty of creation in the passing seasons. For how many years did I rush through life, trying to pack in as much as possible, no matter what the impact might be, as my body aged without me realising? I gave up contributing weekly to Daily Prayer on WhatsApp, when it became too stressful to maintain a regular schedule. I'm not doing anything creative currently to replace this. I have good days and bad days. Fatigue is never far away, mental and physical, and the medication seems to make things worse not better. Being fit and active is a gift and a blessing for much of the time. Restorative rest and sleep are a gift and a blessing too.

There’s no point regretting what I can no longer do, or had to let go of in the interests of a less demanding life. I’ve been given time to think about and understand occasions of failure and error in my life and entrust myself to God’s mercy and pardon. How precious is the Jesus prayer in this regard. I miss leading worship, reading scripture, preaching in church. I may think I still can, but reliability of commitment when there’s no certainty of whether it’s going to be a good day or a bad day, must come first. I accept that after fifty seven years in public ministry, all I have left to offer is thanksgiving. I hope to learn instead from listening to others, and experience the Gospel from a perspective different from the habits of a lifetime. 

Having had such a rich and fulfilling life, illuminated by divine grace and mercy all the way, I have so much to thank God for in all I remember and experience now. One of the earliest sermons I ever preached reflected on St Paul’s statement.“It’s not ourselves that we proclaim, but Jesus Christ as Lord, and ourselves as your servants for Christ’s sake.”  This isn’t just about my annus horribilis, it’s about Him at work in the ministry we have to each other in the Body of Christ.

Kath returned to Kenilworth after lunch. It's been good to have her with us this particular weekend. She's been a great practical support this year with problem solving of several kinds, including bidet plumbing. I walked for an hour before tea and another half hour after tea. My right ankle is still giving me trouble and benefits from modest spells of careful exercise. This happens intermittently and may be something to do with my gait, but I've yet to figure out what's happening with ligaments, tendons and cartilage around the painful area.

I spent the evening after supper watching the first episode of 'Kabul' a drama about the Taliban takeover of Afghanistan, and the 'Ludwig'. And that was enough for the day.